Public perceptions

(1)First off let me be the first to tell you the public perceptions are genuinely not meant to be hurtful, they are just misguided, an confused people when it comes to people they don't know or a situation that makes them uncomfortable. Which I honestly expect ordinarily people that don't understand or are nervous about my wheelchair just have a uncomfortable perspective. They just don't understand that a wheelchair is only an object. A piece of equipment, machinery that helps me perform precisely like legs. Usually, after I break the ice, the perception changes dramatically, People are more interactive, and a realize that I'm not that much different. Breaking the ice, although can be difficult, because people are typically too generous or keep their distance and remain cautious and about how to exactly "function" around me, either yelling too loud, because the perception is, if I'm in a wheelchair, then it must be a devastating illness. All these assumptions, unfortunately, sometimes a person will talk almost at a whisper.

(2)Secondary there is, what I want you and what I should do and deciphering that can be very difficult, because I may know that most people are confused or just simply don't understand. But people do stare people do look down look at me like I'm some strange zoo animal or something. I guess you would have to ask them exactly what I am to their perspective, but people sure look at me with mass awkwardness. In spite of that, I usually laugh, shake it off with ease, but then other times. It's more challenging, because I am human after all, not paralyzed I can pee in an a bathroom urinal. I can pick up my own food but I digress. As I was saying. I am human after all, being human. I go through more stressful days more tiresome days and on them days I can be a little bit more aggravated. I remember an instance when we as a family want to a local campground to camp "obvious Logan". I saw this older man in Hawaii swimming trunks, passing on to the beach. I was preparing a fire in the ring No my names not Jonny Cash. He was crossing into the beach, and he consistently stared at me and continued the obvious obsession with looking at me so much so. He cocked his head around like an owl and a barnyard and he ended up tripping on a log practically stumbling and was inches from hitting his face which I abruptly yelled " Watch your step dumbass" this is just a example of what I experience on a daily basis.


(3) Thirdly I've talked about how people react, how I react, I think this is the right time to bring up my third organize point about perceptions of living in wheelchair Holly you are supposed to act. I mean, heaven's sake. I just told you about how people act and how I react. There has to be a correct way to respond to a person like me in a wheelchair. This may be what you think, what for me to tell you what to do, what to think is not my responsibility. I will tell you there is no right or wrong answer, because we are all different, that is the whole thing people use these perceptions to draw comparisons. So, your neighbors Roseann an Miguel have a mentally disabled child. Your perception is now changed. When you see me. You draw the conclusion that I must be mentally retarded, I guess it's natural to draw comparisons and helps us process a situation but just remain aware that were all different. so, I am not going to tell you how to react, because I have come to learn that these perceptions will come no matter what. But whether you see me or not, do not change who you are you not alter your personality. Just because you think wow this guy must have had a difficult and challenging life. I have to put on a fake smile hell that annoys me more than anything. If you want to hold a door for me thank you but if you don't want to don't think you need to go to Afghanistan, and stand in a gas chamber for 150 minutes. Be realistic I've seen so many fake people in my life, putting on a fake smile just to make themselves feel better about themselves please people save it you're either a good person or a bad person or somewhere in between. To not let my wheelchair, change your personality. once you get to know me, if you want to feel inspired. I would be completely honored but don't show phony compassion it makes me angry.

---->In conclusion to this post just stay yourself. Do not let my wheelchair, affect your personality I can see right through that. Don't draw comparisons to something you do not understand except the fact that we all can be very different. But yet, all the same. He has black hair. I have blonde hair ( differential) however we both enjoy sports (alike). As always ask questions, leave comments, tell me how big of a dumbass I am because after all that old man was.
Peace Dudes
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